Enter "the Woman Who Knows" ... and several who don't.

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Scott: I'm glad you decided to bring your thinking to this venue. It's been a long time since I've seen someone as comprehensively misrepresented and dismissed as you were in that thread. And IMO, that's the inevitable result of casually venturing into any zone where people (consciously or otherwise) are looking to one another for support.

I've spent the last fifteen years running and participating in contentious online communities, and IMO, that hazy line between "support group" and "open community" causes more flames than anything else. Most of the folks in that thread were wanting an amen chorus, not a debate. No matter how much you share their core ideals, no matter how careful you are to concede valid arguments, you're still missing the point... they're seeking comfort in agreement, not an exchange of conflicting ideas.

That's actually one of the significant failures of "blogs as conversations"... a given blog owner seldom establishes the nature of his/her space in terms of support vs. debate. Hell, sometimes such a delineation is impossible, given that topics and moods can swing wildly from purely philosophical to acutely visceral.

There are some times and some places where people don't care about accuracy, logic, or even reality... they just want to feel better. And to the extent that they don't misrepresent the latter as the former, hey, good for them.
Very good points, Roger. I'm reminded of the book on conversational styles of men and women written by a woman whose name escapes me now. Anyway, it suggested that when women complain about something, they frequently aren't looking for someone to solve the problem so much as they are looking for someone to sympathize with them. They'd often rather hear "That sounds terrible and must have made you miserable" instead of "Ah, well, what you should do to fix that is ..." I don't know if the book was correct about that, but I know a friend of mine said that the number of fights he got into with his girlfriend dropped dramatically when he changed his responses from how to fix it to sympathy.
You honestly think that this is still about the numbers game? Fine. I’ll play the numbers game.

<b>1. Fishen/Cullen/Turner.</b>

One of many studies that I cited for your benefit, which I notice that you haven't addressed in your post here. The conclusion there was that between 1 in 4 and 1 in 5 female college students will be raped (or be the victim of attempted rape). And after I went to all the trouble of <a href="http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn103/nena_09999/screenshot01.png">making you a screenshot,</a> too.

<b>2. RAINN</b>

You will recall that <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2210044#t2210044">I specified</a> that RAINN's 1 in 5 statistic is for <b>college aged women</b>, not for the overall population. (I specifically said that RAINN's numbers for the overall populace are 1 in 6, or more accurately, 1 in 5.5. The math is in the comment previously linked.)

Why is the demographic qualifier "college-aged women" important? Because that's the demographic that we can directly compare to the Koss survey from which the old 1 in 4 statistic comes.

So comparing similar demographics displaced in time, you'll see that if there is a drop in rape, it's a drop of 20% at most.

Comparing similar demographics is a MUCH more accurate measure of change than looking at overall numbers, because of the myraid other factors that can come into play for these types of surveys.

If you'd read my replies to you a little more carefully you could've spared yourself all of the mathematic gymnastics in this post.

<b>3. Rennison</b>

<i>[..] table 7 on page 10. According to that table, in just the six years from 1993 to 1999, instances of rape/ sexual assault had declined by 32%.</i>

Scott, you should know better. That ain't how statistics work. A drop from 1993 to 1999 is statistically insignificant when you're talking about a rate of change over 35-some years.

<i>[..]56.3%/68.6%</i>

Those reports rely on NCVS data, which we've discussed the flaws of already.

Finally, I would ask you to look at the line graphics on page 1, page 2, and page 12 of <a href="http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/cv99.pdf">The Rennison report</a>, all of which illustrate visually just how slow the decline in the rape rate between 1973 and 1998 really is.

<b>4. A note about drug/alcohol influence in the NCVS survey</b>

When I said "drug/alcohol-fueled" I was referring to the influence of drugs on the victim, not the perpetrator. The NCVS doesn’t count rapes where the victim gives "dubious" consent (i.e. is drugged and incapable of truly consenting).

<b>5. Other Stuff</b>

<i>Ironically, the NCS, which Nenena and company are claiming is such a flawed study, is the very study cited by anti-rape organizations like RAINN to show how underreported rape is.</i>

Which, you know, would be a good reason NOT to cite it as evidence that rape has definitively declined 80%.

Also, in this post you repeatedly state that I and others were arguing that rape hadn't declined at all. WE WEREN'T. And I thought we made that abundantly clear. My position was that your much-beloved 80% statistic is pure bunk. Not that rape hasn't declined, but that it hasn't declined by 80%. In order to prove that, I dissected the methodology of the study that you cited, <i>and</i> cited studies that disagreed with you. Three studies, to be exact. You cite some of the same ones here, which also disagree with the 80% statistic.

So, um, yay? You just won the argument for the opposition. But you seem strangely convinced that you won your side, which is only true if you're debating against your own strawman conception of what went down in that thread.

Oh god there's more, so much more, but I'm going to sit on my hands and resist tearing apart the rest of your post because a) I have better things to do, and b) the point that I want to make now is that THE NUMBERS GAME DOESN'T MATTER.

So, here we go.

THE NUMBERS GAME DOESN'T MATTER.

Scott, this post demonstrates to me that you do not understand - at all - why people were angry at you in that thread. I mean, this sentence alone:

<i>Today I want to discuss one of the binds that men are put in when discussing feminist issues, specifically the idea that if a man disagrees with a woman’s feminist argument, the man is behaving in a sexist manner because a man should “listen” rather than “tell” in feminist issues.</i>

You. Are. Missing. The. Point.

It's not because you're a man. It's not because you have a dick. It's because in that thread you were <i>acting like</i> a dick.

The entire point of Kadymae's post is that men tend to silence and dismiss violence against women; then you show up in the comments and DO JUST THAT - dismiss violence against women ("You don't understand rape statistics, I do!"), pull out weasly arguments about how disagreeing with the NCVS data is the same as <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2170108#t2170108">calling women "liars,"</a> make <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2174716#t2174716">unbelievably sexist victim-blaming statements</a>, and write just plain <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2171644#t2171644">jaw-dropping shit like this</a> ("I'm saying that I have a higher opinion of women than you"?! Seriously?!).

That, sir, is why people got angry at you in that thread.

You brought up an excellent question in this post. How should men go about discussing feminist issues in feminist spaces? The easy answer is: Don't be a dick. Plenty of other men don't seem to have trouble with this adage. Plenty of other men regularly discuss feminist issues in feminist online spaces, particularly in the comics blogosphere. They don't get jumped on just because they're men.

So maybe, really, the problem is just you.
(*hits self*) I don't understand why Vox sometimes displays HTML correctly and sometimes doesn't.
Yeah, odd. Better just to use the buttons, I've found.

The entire point of Kadymae's post is that men tend to silence and dismiss violence against women; then you show up in the comments and DO JUST THAT - dismiss violence against women ("You don't understand rape statistics, I do!"), pull out weasly arguments about how disagreeing with the NCVS data is the same as <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2170108#t2170108">calling women "liars,"</a> make <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2174716#t2174716">

You are correct that that is a weasly argument, but so is conflating "you don't understand rape statistics" with "I don't care about violence against women." Saying I think there is less violence against women now than in the past is not the same as dismissing violence against women. If you are going to cheat and make me look like a dick for not believing a fangirl with an opinion on how much rape goes on, I think I can make you look like a dick for saying that women on surveys don't always tell the truth. Calling me a liar is apparently OK, but saying that you are calling someone a liar is outrageous.

unbelievably sexist victim-blaming statements</a>, and write just plain <a href="http://kadymae.livejournal.com/581884.html?thread=2171644#t2171644">

Sorry, but no, that is not blaming the victim anymore than asking you how much you think doctors have been able to cure disease is blaming doctors for disease. I am in no way suggesting that women have the duty to end rape or it's their fault they have been raped. I'm suggesting that despite not having the duty to stop rape, just as no one has a duty to become a doctor, women have been effective in stopping a large amount of rape. You don't recognize their successes and I do. Recognizing success in fighting against something is not the same as blaming them as the cause of something. If I said that the American Cancer Society has been effective against fighting cancer and you said that the fight against cancer has made little headway, neither of us would be blaming the ACS for cancer, but you would be saying that the ACS had not made headway against cancer. Again, this "blaming the victim" argument was a way to make me look like a dick despite the fact that if you didn't begin with the premise that I'm a dick, my argument should have been easy to read for what it really was and for what it really was not.

jaw-dropping shit like this</a> ("I'm saying that I have a higher opinion of women than you"?! Seriously?!).

Yes, seriously. I think women are more powerful than you do. You don't think they've been able to defeat their foes like I do. You think that despite dramatic decreases in all violent crimes, rape is the on for which there hasn't been much movement. You seem to think the rapists are winning, but I think women are. So yes, I think I have a higher opinion of women than you do. And you are suggesting that you have a higher opinion of women than I do, right? Is it OK for people to imply that they have a higher opinion of women than I do because I saw that a lot in that thread? A lot. And if they imply that, can I not suggest the opposite?

They don't get jumped on just because they're men.

You are correct. They get jumped on if they are men and they disagree. So long as they smile and nod, everything is fine.

I'll discuss the college studies later because I think they deserve their own post. Suffice it to say here, that the later study did NOT find that 1 in 5 (or 1 in 4) women would be raped and it is odd that you are so concerned with comparing results after a redesign of a survey but don't at all seem bothered by comparing the results of two completely different surveys.

"I'm reminded of the book on conversational styles of men and women..."

I don't think it's particularly a man/woman thing... nor is it necessarily a constant. The man looking for a fix today may be looking for comfort tomorrow.

The funny thing is that I actually find Nenena's factual arguments pretty compelling, so I'm not sure what I think about the "dramatic decline". But it's a sure bet that I'm not going to learn anything from people declaring you "pro-rapist" or belching out mindless repetitions of bumper-sticker sentiments like "Check your privelege at the door!"
Oh, and just to be sure, you are suggesting that you know more about crime statistics and how they are reported to the police and surveys than Dr. Shannan Catalano, who literally wrote the book on the subject. (OK, a book.) She's full of crap when she said that rape/sexual assault dropped 66.7%, and you're 20%-ish figure is correct, right? Her figures were fatally flawed so we can't conclude that there has a been a dramatic drop from 1993 to 2005, and you are correct that there has been little drop, right?

The funny thing is that I actually find Nenena's factual arguments pretty compelling,

I did to, which is why I read the studies she cited. There's some interesting and fightening stuff out there, but her main argument about the college studies fails completely for a lot of reasons that I didn't put into this post because it was already waaaaaaay too long. But I'll get to it. But in any event, I can say that I enjoyed her part in the discussion. I learned some stuff from it.

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